First Times  

Taking your first steps into the world of BDSM can be a scary prospect. You may have been trying to suppress what you see as 'strange' impulses for many years and many people have doubts about themselves.

Whether you're contemplating your first ever munch, visit to a BDSM club or just wanting to begin to make contact with other people in the lifestyle, it can be reassuring to know that everyone had to begin somewhere.

In this section we show a few people who have taken those first steps into accepting their true selves and discovered that once they'd done it, it wasn't scary at all.

ayeesha[G]'s First Real Life BDSM Experience

ayeesha[G] launched herself into the world of real life BDSM by having her 'debut' at a club in London.

Club Etiquette

Often going to a club for a first time can seem a daunting prospect, particularly if you are unfamiliar with what might be expected of you. Here we provide a guide to help you prepare yourself for that first club outing, how to conduct yourself appropriately so that you can relax and enjoy your evening.

My First Munch by tabbi the evil kitten

tabbi tells of her experience of going to her first ever BDSM group munch. As if that wasn't enough to get anyone started, she then went along to a flogging workshop, a play party and then a club all on the same day!

My Day 'Out' at the London Fetish Fair by bluelittleme

bluelittleme chose the London Fetish Fair for her first 'public' appearance and found herself having a great time despite the fact that she wasn't wearing black.

Hotwax’s Weekend Of Discovery by hotwax

Many people are confused when they first hear about the phenomenon of subspace, what is it and is it real? Here hotwax relates his first experience of 'spacing'.

A BDSM Virgin by ZammyG

To those who have never used IRC before, particularly on a bondage or BDSM specific network, it can seem a bit like a black hole of expectations. ZammyG was no exception and describes both his worries about his first time chatting online and the reality of what he found.

Links

The Deviant's Dictionary - Definitions for many terms, some quite obscure.

BDSM Palace's Quick Guide to BDSM - Another guide to common BDSM terms and items.

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