|On Being a
First, an explanation and definition. A "healer" is a person to attempts to make a client whole and complete, free of distortions and pain. [from the Old English - haelen, to make whole]. This "making whole" does not mean a simple restoration to the status quo ante, a curing of symptoms and removal, or alteration of the body and/or mind so that the client feels "back to normal". That certainly seems to provide the client with relief, but their perception of "normal" may or may not be accurate. It may be that their "normal" contains elements which may have led to their pain and other symptoms for which they sought relief, while failing to seek relief for those things which precipitate their discomfort.
Increasingly, there are many fine physicians and nurses who recognize this. They know that the whole person must be cared for in addition to their symptoms. There are also those who are not healthcare providers, but work in cooperation with them, providing relief from stress and relaxation, freeing the client to let their natural tendency to heal themselves have freedom in which to work. Often, caring members of the healthcare profession will openly or privately refer their patients to such complementary providers for naturally available modalities such as Reiki, massage, accupressure/accupuncture, counseling, chiropractic, and other energywork/bodywork.
Healers who work in this context are so motivated by the client's need that they often combine elements of many healing traditions. At times, this will include techniques which are very familiar; at other times, it will use methods which are not normally seen as those of any one modality, but a synthesis of parts of many traditions, challenging both the client and the practitioner, who may have even created the system. The test of any system or modality is that it does not violate the principle, familiar in healthcare - "If you can do no good, at least do no harm". Part of this is a fully informed recipient, with all aspects of the modality being explained in advance with time and encouragement for many questions. In addition, adherence to the maxim quoted above must guide the healer at all times.
Any such practitioner has often heard the desperate requests of clients who have not yet found satisfaction with current methods of care. The practitioner must always explain that they work in a complementary way with healthcare providers and that they do not diagnose or treat any condition or symptom(s), working only to remove barriers of stress by providing a chance for deep relaxation. Any topic is acceptable for conversation during this time as long as it is in this context, even those which are very unique, sensitive, or private. If unique settings and procedures will enhance the relaxation, then they are appropriate. Any client who wishes to to choose complementary care instead of traditional medical care will not be accepted until they resume traditional treatment. The only time that a client may choose a complementary provider is when the only goal is to learn relaxation and awareness of their personal energy.
Becoming a healer means responding to a calling. This calling most times happens when the healer is already an adult [in our culture 18 years old or 21 is the minimum age]. It is rare to find a genuine calling in either the very young or in the very old. Sometimes this calling is gradual and gentle, insistent in its nature over time. Sometimes this calling is sudden and often linked to a major change in ones life. In various cultures this calling is said to be beyond a person's choice. They will find themselves as a healer or risk perpetual compulsive avoidance of the topic. For certain healers, this may mean an alienation from ones friends and family. For others, a new respect from those around them. It will always signal a major change in ones own life. It is best if the potential healer find a person in the field with whom they can discuss this need to become a healer.