Honoring Dibya "Dibo" Sen
My Dear Friends,
I think we
all feel the loss of Dibo in varying degrees. Some may not have known Dibo well. Many others can imagine his eyes, his smile, and his voice
without effort. Others knew Dibo well enough that they can predict what
he would think in any given situation, and the void that is left behind
Dibo's passing is, at times, unbearably sad.
Whatever
your reaction is...it is appropriate. I find it hard to think of Dibo
without a smile creasing my face, but then I am instantly reminded that
he's gone, and my creases are filled.
Regardless
of where you fall in the spectrum of knowing Dibo, you are surrounded by
people who were loved by Dibo, and who loved him. Dibo isn't feeling
pain, but we who remain are the ones who suffer his loss. Let us comfort
each other. Give a hug when you normally wouldn't. Step outside yourself
and listen. Take the moment that you didn't have time for in the past.
Say that you knew you were his friend. Say that he was fortunate to have
a friend like you. As Dibo said last night, tell someone "I love you,
Man," without shame, and without regret.
We, the
UASOM class of 2008 are blessed...we are an extraordinary community that
is rare even within these hallowed walls. Please take an extra moment to
support one another through this. It will make it easier - I guarantee
it.
There was
nothing more that could be done to preserve our beloved Sen. You did
everything that could be done, and you did it right. It's OK, even
though it doesn't feel that way. The pain will pass, but with infinite
fury, Dibo will not be lost or unremembered. And you, as a part of his
life, will maintain the light that he brought with him to this Earth.
In the
coming days, and in particular when the Sens arrive from India, steps
will be taken that involve all of us. I hope that you will pay
particular attention to whatever arrangements are made on their behalf.
Sincerely
yours,
Rob
McDonald
